Wedding Talk

T-minus 207 days.

Yep, that’s right. The clock has turned back. Yes, we’ve had to postpone the wedding. Thank you, Coronavirus. (Insert big middle finger here.)

Deciding to postpone the wedding wasn’t an easy decision. In fact, it was one we didn’t want to make at all, but when we saw how this was affecting others, we decided it was best. We have a number of older guests that will be in attendance, and it just wouldn’t be the same without them.

I’ve cried in the shower a lot. Probably because I wanted to blame myself. Was this karma? Was this a punishment from something I said to someone 10 years ago in a heated argument? It took some soul searching to realize that this wasn’t my fault. This is happening to bride’s all over the country right now, and I’m not alone. At least all the planning is done. Everything down to the vows. I guess we will just shift into saving mode for now.

What I have taken away from this, is that when our wedding day does arrive, everyone will be ready to party. It’s going to be amazing!

…until next time.

Coronavirus Quarantine - Day 6

The longer I sit here at home, the more my mind wanders. When my mind wanders, I get in trouble. My mind switches from excited, to worried, to depressed, to unsure, and it’s because of all this extra time I have to sit and think.

I MISS WORK!

Here’s what I’m feeling and why…

…Sad - It looks as if my wedding shower is going to be canceled. Since we are on this “Safer at Home” soft lockdown through the end of April, the shower that was scheduled for end of April, can’t happen. Ugh.

…Pissed - I keep thinking about what would happen if we have to actually cancel the wedding. Would I lose all the money we’ve paid? Will they allow us to put the money towards a different date? Do I even want to pick a different date? When I start to think about all that, I get angry and mad and it ultimately leads to being pissed.

…Despressed - All the hours of prep time that have gone into planning this shower and wedding could possibly be for nothing. If we ultimately decide to have the wedding on that day, regardless of where it happens, the shower can’t happen because the person throwing it (MOH), can’t come any other time.

…Excited - It took us months and months to pick a date on which we could agree. Then it took over a year and a half for the time to actually get here. That was all very exciting. To think that we might actually get to do that again, could be exciting. I mean, we never were in a rush to get married, so maybe we just need to wait one more year. And another year of saving, could be exciting as well.

I could go on and on and on and on some more, but I think you get the gist of what I’m feeling. It’s all wedding related. I promised I wouldn’t be a Bridezilla, and thus far, I haven’t. I’m really hoping to stick with that promise, because ultimately, I have to accept the things I cannot change.

…until next time.

Wedding Talk

T-minus 97 days and counting.

It’s getting real. The RSVP’s are starting to come back, and the nerves are starting to arrive with them. Since we’ve had so much time to plan and prepare, I didn’t expect there to be so many nerves this early. Boy, I was wrong. Maybe I’m just anxious to finally have it happening. Maybe I’m nervous because it IS actually happening. Either way, I’m excited to have a day that’s all about me. And him, of course.

{The Dress}Dress shopping can be overwhelming. I didn’t know exactly what to expect when we walked inside, but it wasn’t long before I realized it was up to ME to pick the perfect dress. No pressure there!
I went through several dresses, then picked four of my favorites. The very first dress I tried on, made me cry. I couldn’t believe how beautiful it was. When I walked out of the dressing room, my bridesmaids started taking photos and let me know right away that this was a definite contender.
I narrowed it down to two dresses, and then tried them on again. Because there was such a big price difference between the two, I needed to step back and allow myself to think about it. I didn’t want to be forced to get a dress just because the cost was right, but didn’t want to spend more than necessary on a dress I’m going to wear once.

A few days later, I went back and tried them on again. This time, I already had my mind made up when I walked into the store. I walked out having picked a dress. A beautiful dress. A dress that I’ll only wear once.

{Wedding Party}
My MOH and Bridesmaids have all ordered their dresses. My two flower girls have both received their dresses, and my mother has already purchased and altered her dress. Now it’s time for the guys to get their tuxes ordered.

I went and looked at colors so that when the guys go, they already know what they are getting. No surpises. However, I feel like I jumped the gun when I picked the tie color, so I need to go back and rethink that. Ugh. I really wish my MOH lived closer. Doing all this stuff alone isn’t any fun.

{Honeymoon}
Since SS and I have lived together for over six years, we have everything we need to fill our home. This means we don’t need a blender, or a mixer, or china dishes we will never use. This means that we would rather our friends and family donate their money to our honeymoon fund, so we can have an amazing time in paradise. I just don’t exactly know how to get the word out that we don’t need gifts. Hmmm…

Stay tuned for more Wedding Talk as we get closer. 

Wedding Talk

Operation Wedding is in full swing.
The last time we talked about the wedding, was in January. So much has transpired since then, so let’s chat about it.

{Colors}
Colors were an easy decision for me. Red has always been my favorite, so that was a no brainer. Deciding which color to pair it with was a little more challenging for me, but ultimately, I decided on grey. Trust me. It’s going to be gorgeous.

{Wedding Party}
This decision was a tricky one for both of us. Since my Stepdad has passed and my real dad is dead to me isn’t in my life, my son is going to walk me down the aisle. I don’t think he understands just how big of a deal that position is, but in time, I hope he gets it. Best Man and Maid of Honor choices were simple. We went with our siblings. Nobody else I’d rather have standing next to me to keep me calm. She will be my rock. Lil’ SS is going to be a groomsman, which is super cool. We will work out all the aesthetics, but I’m super thrilled both kids will be part of our special day. The blending of our family is important to me, and I want both the kids to know just how dedicated I am to making our family a happy one. Even if it means growing pains.

{Venue}
We decided on a location. We will have the ceremony and reception at the same place. We have also picked out the dinner menu, so if you like TriTip, Salmon, or Ham, we will be thinking of you while we devour it. Ha!

{The Cake}
We just went cake tasting this past Saturday. That was so much fun! Designed the whole cake while sitting there, however, I might make a few changes to it. Still thinking on that one, but the inside is all decided. Can’t wait to pig out on that deliciousness.

{Engagement Photos}
One of my bridesmaids happens to be a photographer, so we went out a few months ago while it was still green around here and shot a few pictures. I was wearing a dress and felt so uncomfortable, so I’m trying to nail down another day we can go somewhere else and take some different ones. Just want something good for the Save the Date cards.

{The Dress}
I’ve looked at some dresses online, to sort of wrap my mind around the styles that might appeal to me most, but I don’t think I can accurately gauge that without trying them on. My mom and sister/MOH are coming out at the end of August, so we will see what happens. Mom is super excited to go dress shopping. More so than me, I think. Lol

The reality of everything is starting to set in. It’s eleven months away and there’s still so much to do. We’ve made a lot of progress, but since there is still so much more, stay tuned.

Wedding Talk

It’s the beginning of another year, and that means it’s getting closer to our wedding. I know it seems like it’s a million months away, but if it’s like anything else I’ve anticipated, it’ll be here before I know it.

We have set a date. Well, we’ve set a weekend. We can’t decide if we want to do it on a Saturday or a Sunday, but at least we’ve narrowed it down at least that much. I feel like that was one of the hardest decisions we had to make. He didn’t seem to have an opinion about when he wanted to get married, however, he was very adamant about not wanting to get married in December like I had originally wanted. Some things in this wedding will be worth fighting for. The date was not one of them.

I have gone through so many different venues, looking for the one that best fits ‘us’, and after talking with SS’s mother, I think we’ve found it. It’s a location that both SS and I have enjoyed for years, so we’re going to do a tour of the location and look at it a little differently than what we are used to. Can’t wait.

More updates as they come…

Wedding Talk

We are five months closer to the wedding than the last time we talked about it. Time is ticking away and I still don’t have all the decisions made.
I made a list of places I’d like to visit. Then I added places to it that SS would like to visit. After talking through all of them, we crossed off everything except…..

Kauai

We want to go back to the beautiful island of Kauai. There was so much we didn’t get to do the first time we were there, so we are determined to see the rest. There are a BUNCH of hiking trails that the island is famous for, so in a weeks time, we should have no problem tackling those.


More updates as they come….

Wedding Talk

Operation Wedding has begun. Although our date is still two plus years away, the planning and organizing of it all, needs to start. And this means first and foremost, coming up with a date so we can lock down a location and get a deposit made. I refuse to wait until the last three months to do it all. Absolutely refuse. And I’m pretty sure my Maid of Honor will kill me if I wait too long to do certain things. She’s already chomping at the bit to get things booked.

Location:
I’ve searched through website after website for locations. I’ve gone all the way from Santa Barbara to Temecula. Lots and lots of choices. Do you have a suggestion on location?

Colors:
I have my colors picked out. SS doesn’t care anything about what color dresses my bridesmaids should wear, and certainly doesn’t care what color flowers are going to be on the tables, so, colors are all me. Thankfully, it was an easy choice and that decision is made. ✔ that off my To Do List.

Maid of Honor/Bridesmaids:
My MoH choice was simple. There was no question that I wanted my sister to stand next to me and keep me sane through this whole process. She’s already taken the reins on most things.
Bridesmaids will be a tougher decision. The wedding party is an important part of this. If I’m going to have wedding photos hanging around my house, I want it full of people that I love. Full of people that are amazingly awesome and want to be a part of our special day. People that I’ll want to look at all year long, for the rest of my life. So far, I only have one bridesmaid chosen. A friend that goes all the way back to 4th grade. She will also help keep me sane. I’d like to come up with at least one more, so fingers crossed.

Honeymoon:
We’ve talked about where we want to go, but nothing has been decided. I know where SS wants to go, and while I think it’s a super safe and good choice, I’m thinking I’d like to look at some additional options. If you have any suggestions, let me know. I’m open to options.

There is so much still to decide, but don’t worry, I’ll take you along with me the entire time. Can’t wait! So excited!